Expert Tips: Learn How To Become A Good Parents

Raising a child is not a child’s play. Being a parent is a tough job. Before you plan to have a baby ask yourself if you are ready to be a parent? Giving birth to a child doesn’t make you a parent. Parenting is a lot more than just giving birth to the baby and feeding the baby 3 times a day. Parenting includes providing the child a protective environment and proper care in order to ensure a healthy upbringing of the child. One also needs to have a good parent-child relationship. A high-quality parent-child relationship is very critical for the healthy development of the child. A good parent does not have to be perfect. Neither child is perfect. In fact, no one is perfect in this world. Keep this in mind before setting expectations. Successful parenting is not about achieving perfection, but to raise the child with love and care and providing them a surrounding where they can grow. 

In today’s generation, maintaining a healthy child and parent relationship and giving your child the right amount of care from the mother or father is very difficult is most of the cases.  Both of the parents are working so they tend to leave their baby with the nanny or the caretaker. This creates a gap between the child and her parents is while in his/her growing stage the child doesn’t get enough time to spend with their parents. 

Today we teams and seniors will be sharing with you some tips on how to be good parents,   that will help you to improve your parenting every day. Of course, following them won’t be easy, but you will still be going in the right direction. 

1. Don’t Shout On Your Childrens

There is a practice of shutting up your children by shouting at them. This is a very bad practice.  Don’t shout at your children rather try to explain them what why are you not letting them doing the thing that they want to do, what can be its consequences. Shouting at them will make them aggressive. They will think you can make anyone obey your words by just shouting at them. 

2. Say Positive Things

You are your child’s best friend. Your child will learn the things they will see you doing. We often see girls coping with their mother by faking a saree through her mother’s dupatta or try to behave like a mother around the house.  A child tries to copy their parents, so try to say positive things when you are around your child.  This will help them to develop a positive thinking and a positive mindset from the beginning only. For example, if you fight with your spouse in front of your child, they will learn that fighting is normal.  Or if you say something bad or mean to someone in front of your child they will quickly catch this. Try to avoid such things in front of your children. 

3. Teach Them To Be Kind To Others

Lara Aknin’s research shows that children find happiness through giving to others. Teach your children to be kind towards others. Teach them to share their food with their classmates or to share their toys with their friends. This will develop a sense of togetherness in your child. If you want your child to lead a joyful and fulfilling life, teach them to serve others and to contribute. Involve them in activities where they get the chance to help others and make a positive impact. You can do this by taking them to an orphanage to share your child’s clothes or toys with the children living in the orphanage. It will help him to understand the joy of sharing with others, it will also develop a sense of selflessness in your child. 

4.  Don’t Compare Your Child With Others

Don’t compare your child with Sharma Ji ka Beta! Remember everyone is unique. Don’t pressure him for anything. Give him time to explore his qualities. Virat Kohli can’t dance neither Remo Dsouza can play cricket. So what’s the point of comparing? they will be best in their field if they get the support from you. Support them and watch them growing like a flower. Pressuring will dull the fragrance of the flower, or may even kill the flower.

5. Answer Their Question

We often see children ask different kinds of questions to their elders out of curiosity. Most of the time either the elders ignore the question or give them a wrong answer or some stupid answer just to shut them up for that moment or even they shout at their children to shut them up. and ask them not to ask this question again.  But do you think this is correct?  The innocent mind will keep on thinking why the elders are not answering his or her question and that will lead them to ask this question to some outsiders.  Before the outsider teache your child, try to teach them at home by yourself answer their questions. 

6. Give Responsibilities

The Harvard study of adult development found out that children who do more housework around the house become happier later on.  Household responsibilities teach children important life lessons related to duty, cooperation,  community, helping others, and hard work. This also teach the children about gender equality. Ask the father to help the mother in the housework this will teach your son or daughter that managing a house is not only a women’s responsibility.  There is no gender division in the basic life skills. Children who learn the daily chorus early in life are likely to become well-adjusted adults. Make household corers a part of the families routine and culture which will helps the children to build up a healthy future. 

7. Give Them Challenges

Psychology work found out that people who view challenges and obstacles in a positive way or far more likely to become more successful than those who don’t. Teach your child to view the challenges positively. Give them small tasks one at a time and ask them to finish eat this will help to develop a sense of positive attitude towards the challenges from the beginning. You can give them challenges, for example, you can ask them to finish the homework in a given time or else they will have to do some extra study as and punishment.  So this will make them realize the value of time and they will learn to take the challenges in a positive way as well. 

8. Be Friends With Your Child

Be friends with your child ask them about how their day was tell them about how your day was shared with them your small stories and hurt them out as well. It will give your child a sense of care and protection within yourself They will be able to share their problems or their insecurities with yourself if you don’t develop this habit from any young age it becomes difficult to get close to your child during their teenage years and the distance will keep on growing. Your child will fear to share their problems or their faults with you. They will hide them from you.  

9. Give Them Time

At a growing age give your child the time they need. Don’t rely on the nannies. Of course, your paid worker will take care of your child, but they won’t be providing the environment that a father or a mother can provide. Mothers get maternity leave from their work but it is very important for fathers as well to spend their time with their children. The holiday you get or the time you get after work hours, try to spend it with your little ones. Take them out, feed them with your own hands, check out their homework, play with them, talk to them. Give them the time and attention HR wants proper attention from their parents during their growing stage. 

10. Help Them To Develop Social Skills

Healthier children to develop social skills in them during an early age. Teach your children the idea of sharing, respecting others’ choices and feelings, seeing from other’s perspectives, accepting differences, complimenting others, asking for help, listening, communicating, managing negative emotions, etc. It is seen that a lot of children who had good social skills from a young age are confident and successful adults. And those who had poor social skills are the ones with low self-esteem, and with an introverted nature. A confident person can stand out in the crowd easily. Developing the social skills from an early age can help your child in the future so focus on this part from the early learning stage. 

11. Educate Them

When your childhood hit their teenage, be frank with them. Talk to them about dating concepts, the difference between good friends and bad friends, about the opposite sex, the importance of consent,  mensuration. Have a good sex talk with them. A good parent-to-child talk will help these blooming minds to understand such heavy concepts in a better way. This will help your boy to develop the feeling of respecting a girl and teasing things will make your girl strong!

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